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I recently went out with a group of friends on a Saturday night and it turned out to be quite a few more of us than expected. After calling around we managed to find a place that could seat us all and we went there.
I ended up sitting opposite a newer person to the group who was diabetic. Each time the waitress brought drinks and refills this person would ask the waitress if this was definitely diet because otherwise she could end up in hospital due to the diabetes. Each time the waitress assured her it was. Even after this, whilst the waitress was still in earshot, she would push the glass over to her boyfriend and ask him to taste it saying "I just can't take the risk..." (Now as it turns out this place uses a system for the drinks - Diet comes in a specific glass type with the product name on it and normal comes in a straight glass with no markings. It was an obvious system.) We tried pointing out to her the type of glasses and that it showed they had a system to avoid such mistakes but this only resulted in louder protestations. When we got to the time for dessert... she ordered what must have been the most sugary dessert on the menu.
Whilst I appreciate that its risky for her I really didn't like that this was going on. Firstly we were seated next to the host stand. The rest of the servers most have overheard this conversation more than once during the evening. Secondly there was no attempt to be polite and respectful to the waitress and be quiet about it or wait until she was out of earshot. Thirdly this continued even though we pointed out the system they used. Fourthly (and this one might get me into trouble since I don't know too much about managing diabetes) she ordered the most sugary dessert on the menu which must have been far more loaded than a few sodas.
I know a couple of us were feeling a bit awkward about the whole thing by the time we ended the meal. I know I certainly was being over the top nice to the waitress and constantly thanking her to make up for this persons actions (and I wonder if it was almost to the point of being too OTT about it). I certainly made sure we added a bit more tip to the bill thank usual to make up for this persons actions. The manager thanked us for being such a nice group to deal with as we were leaving but it still felt very awkward.
I do dislike eating with people that make too much of a fuss and I have dealt with eating out with food allergies before (thankfully not life threatening consequences though). A polite one time mention is all it usually takes unless you get a change of server. Am I being over sensitive to the persons actions?